…That I have no worries.
They believe I do not have financial burdens, am not responsible for anyone and pretty much do as I please.
I won’t go into details of who I am responsible for, or where I am committed. Not here. If you are in my personal space, you will know.
A friend/colleague was having a three-way conversation with me and another colleague sometime back. And then, she says to me, ‘well, you don’t have any worries.’ I smiled. ‘Really?’
And say, ‘well, when my rent is due, I worry about it by MYSELF. Or when I have to meet an obligation, I worry about it by myself. When I am broke, I am broke by myself. When YOU are broke, you are not worrying about your rent by yourself. There is a helper, someone pitching in. You won’t always be the one taking a loan by yourself. Someone else (I assume you have married a financially responsible man) is also making an effort to make ends meet. So do not go running about how I do not have any worries’.
So my friend says ‘Oh. I never thought about it like that.’ I kept quiet and returned to work.
I am not saying it is all rosy in marriage… But to say ‘I have no worries cos I’m single?!’ I am a responsible adult.
Responsible. And that comes with associated worries.