Illusions

Create a life that you enjoy. Make an effort to laugh from your belly daily, to sow joy into each day. Don’t keep looking out the window for what you think you are missing.  Looking from the outside, sometimes, can show you the most untruths. Don’t look in from windows and think you lack.  Currently …

On defining moments, cultures, traditions and shaming.

There are instances that define us. memories embedded in the front of our minds forever, and every experience is filtered through the lens of that experience. ♠ I used to attend a church a couple of years back, and I had been actively attending midweek services. While not exactly far from work, I didn’t have …

Travel

It’s been several years since, wanting to prove a point, I had packed a box and gotten on a flight that led me to Nairobi and then to Bangkok International Airport on a solo trip. Since then, I have been to other countries including Tanzania (Dar es Salaam and Zanzibar), Ireland (Killiney and Dublin), Egypt …

On ‘Becoming’ and ‘Healing’

We talk about ‘becoming’ and ‘healing’ like it’s a lot of light. But not a lot about the emptiness and how some things no longer fit and how you also have to find yourself anew. The process is one that involves a lot of uncoupling of who we are, and even though maybe we have …

Chasing Shadows?

How much of what we do is a response to proving something to someone? Whether because we want to appear in a certain way? Or because we are proving that we are not a way they think we are. I paid for a thing the other day, and it had me thinking if I had …

Selfishness? Maybe. Or not.

Yesterday, my friend reached out to me. She needed to talk about enrolling her kids in a top tier private primary school in the country vs starting a school of her own. Thing is, she can not afford both. She could send her kids to the school OR she could put the money into starting …

That they can does not mean that they should

We adopted a 5yo some months ago. A few weeks back, my mum asked her to get dressed so they could go to church together. I don’t remember what I was doing but I had not gone to check on her while she got ready. When she came out, she was wearing the same polo …

Everything Good Will Come by Sefi Atta

The book is whimsy. It’s hard, makes me burst out into laughter and also reminds me of the grimy bits of life.  It’s highlighted being black in a foreign land and how it can be. I have enjoyed Sheri and Enitan’s friendship, how two people can be so different, yet develop such a bond and …

END SARS

I’ve been afraid these past couple of weeks.  Like I told K, over the past year, I’ve curtailed my freedom of expression so much. So very much. I ask myself who would fight for me if I get into trouble and I have so many people depending on me. Coupled with some personal pain and …

On Inner Child Meditation

I have been reading a bit about inner child meditation, abandonment wounds and shadow work. A few weekends ago, I took my first step into inner child work, listening to a meditation by Sheleana Aiyana. There was 2 different ages of me that I felt the most strongly, and I started from one of them. …